Work With Me | Cosmic Bitch-Slap

maybe you -

Have a stressful, demanding job with unrelenting pressure to perform but you frequently doubt yourself, question your decisions, and suspect you’re just not worthy

Believe your hard work got you here along with your dedication to your success but now you’re sleep-deprived, terminally stressed, and always on the edge of anxiety

Think that if you know what’s gonna happen tomorrow, next week, next month, and next year you’ll feel safe and in control of your life and can finally breathe and relax

Constantly compare yourself to other people, measuring yourself against them, invariably coming up short, and always end up feeling like you’re basically not enough

Have to psych yourself up on the way to work, then replay the day’s conversations in your mind on the way home, but you say different things than you did at the time

Know people would throw you under a bus if they knew what you really were, so you keep them at arm’s length, making sure you never show them your vulnerability

Feel like you have to wear armour at work to protect yourself and can only relax and be yourself is when you’re all alone, soaking in your tub with a drink in your hand

Hear your soul calling out for things to change and realizing you’re stuck or trapped or maybe even broken, you have no idea what to do about it and feel even shittier

And so…

You listen to self-help audio books or podcasts to learn about what you could be doing and how you could be thinking

You recite affirmations in the mirror every morning telling yourself that you are a confident and worthy woman

And you go to a therapist to find out what happened in your childhood that made you are the way you are

But –

None of that stuff has moved the needle and nothing’s really changed

I know. I’ve been there. I did all those things too. And I got nowhere fast…

well get this -

Our brain is an ancient survival supercomputer designed to ensure we survived

we no longer need to live in survival mode – we need to thrive and our brain wasn’t designed to help us do that

We have the power to rewire our brain to change how we perceive ourselves

and it all starts with awareness that we’re operating within our very own invisible feedback loop that’s dictating our survival by keeping us safely existing in the zone of the known and blowing off all the painful stuff we keep locked deep inside ourselves while that big loud voice in our mind screams that we’re undeserving or unworthy or not enough of something or too much of something else, and over time our confidence gradually evaporates as we live our lives trying to be someone we’re not

what would it be like if -

Jennifer really helped me see how I was repeating the same behaviors without even being aware that I was doing it. I thought I was coming up with new ideas, but I was still operating within my story about myself, what I thought I was capable of, and what I truly desired. She helped see myself from a different perspective and from that perspective, I discovered many things I’d been avoiding out of fear. Jennifer taught me an amazing new way of being that has shown me my value and given me the confidence to create the life I dreamed of.

I was referred to Jennifer by a colleague I’d told about wanting to leave my job and dreading starting all over again. Her expansive personality and mercurial attitude put me at ease and made me feel seen, heard, and understood. Working with her, I had a breakthrough around what Jennifer terms ‘things we don’t know we already know’ and finally understood that I already have a ton of tools and skills that are everything I need!

I’ve always been afraid of not knowing what was going to happen, but never saw how much that was holding me back from being myself and doing what I wanted to do. The idea that I was trapped in my own invisible feedback loop wasn’t even on the radar for me. Working with Jennifer, I started trusting myself and my decisions, and learned how to be more at ease with uncertainty as I followed my dream of being a digital nomad.

When my kids went away to college, my husband and I divorced. After thirty years of being a wife and a mom, I didn’t know who I truly was or what I wanted from my life, and I had no idea what to do about that. Jennifer helped me I rediscover my passion for fashion. After a year travelling in Paris, Milan, and New York, I created a business catering to empty-nester women seeking a new and polished style of dressing. And I am certain I would never have possessed the confidence to do all those things without Jennifer’s help.

what does Hollywood have to do with confidence?

Working in the brutal environment of the Hollywood film industry isn’t easy –

the hours are grueling

the egos are challenging

the results are non-negotiable

we are all basically self-employed

working means we are good at our job

Each new movie or TV show we work on is –

a different script

a different location

a different film studio

a different cast and crew

a different set of challenges

Success for us requires having an attitude that embraces our worthiness and a mindset that radiates confidence

That attitude and mindset come from acquiring and developing some extremely powerful tools –

We aren’t trapped in an invisible feedback loop and mindlessly existing on autopilot

because each movie we work on has different requirements we must adapt to

We fully own our accomplishments and don’t guilt trip about acknowledging them

because they got us where we are and acknowledging them creates confidence

We’ve trained ourselves to perceive similarities instead of differences in everything

because seeing similarities guarantees our success on each movie we work on

We understand exactly what we bring to the table so we don’t fear uncertainty or risk

because we’ve learned that we can trust ourselves and the decisions we make

We feel confident and at ease living as our unapologetically authentic selves

because we know we’re recognized and valued for our unique brilliance

Needless to say, most people don’t work in a brutal environment like Hollywood

But their workplace is filled with toxic bosses, demanding clients, and competitive colleagues

so here's the thing -

These powerful tools are actually universal but they’re things most people never think about because –

It’s easier to exist on autopilot in an invisible feedback loop of the known
We’re taught not to acknowledge our accomplishments or talk about them
We don’t question our insistence that people and things are dissimilar or different
We don’t trust ourselves or our decisions, and are fearful of uncertainty and risk
We’re constantly comparing ourselves to others and then deciding we’re inadequate

And the worst part is, we go through life feeling unworthy, lacking confidence, not trusting ourselves, fearing uncertainty and the unknown, and rejecting our authenticity without ever knowing that all that shit disappears when we acquire and develop these powerful tools

That’s what I mean when I say that I see you and I know you and it’s the reason I created the Hollywood Confidence Formula

I never dreamed that movies could have anything to do with my C-suite job. But when Jennifer described the challenges of her job in the Hollywood film industry, I felt like she was talking about me and I knew that her expertise in overcoming these issues was exactly what I’d been looking for. Working with her has seriously leveled-up my confidence and strengthened my boundaries. I no longer fear making mistakes that would make me look bad or worry about being uncertain thanks to Jennifer’s focused perception of my situation and her invaluable guidance.

Jennifer is so confident and authentic, I wondered how she could know anything about someone like me who is not. But she was very open about her struggles in the Hollywood film industry in a way that made me feel safe and understood. Working with Jennifer has led me from reacting and taking offense to being intentional and confident. She helped me learn to acknowledge my legal expertise and stop trying to control the outcome of my cases out of fear of being judged.

I was under a lot of pressure in a new position and had begun to doubt myself and and question my decision-making abilities when I began working with Jennifer. Her insights on decision making in high stress conditions where the stakes are astronomical showed me that making decisions that aren’t always the right ones are a natural part of my leadership role. I learned that flexing into a different decision and communicating to my team engendered their respect and enthusiasm and was no cause for me to doubt myself or my abilities. I seriously believe I would not have regained my confidence without Jennifer’s help.

I was miserable and stuck in a demanding, unfulfilling, toxic job. As a widowed mom with a mortgage and three kids to support, I couldn’t see a way out. I was uncertain about what else might be out there for me and couldn’t risk leaving my job. I now run a thriving consulting company and I have much less anxiety in my life and way more confidence in myself. Jennifer helped me see that I was living on autopilot without even knowing who I really am or what I am capable of, just living in survival mode and fearful about the future of my kids, my job, and life in general.

if you haven't met me yet, here's my backstory -

I burned out and ran away from my stressful, high-paying, soul-sucking job in the Hollywood film industry with my confidence in shreds, never wanting to look back

On an epic global adventure my confidence was reignited by learning that I had a big bag of tools I’d acquired making movies that I used to construct the life I chose

Learning that 80% of women feel unworthy and of those, 92% believe they lack the confidence to ever be successful, I got passionate about changing that paradigm

Right after I threw up…

And when I started speaking with women about themselves and their lives, I got even more upset seeing the undeniable truth of that appalling statistic

Confidence is my jam and igniting it in other women became my mission

I embody that mission by showing women how to awaken to their worth, reignite their confidence, and escape the invisible feedback loop they’re existing in

My programs aren’t ego-coddling therapy sessions, or hand-holding strategy meetings, or platitude-laden superficial conversations

They’re inspiring spaces of discovery that are completely relaxed, very real, and highly focused, while being non-judgmental, humorous, and pretty explicit

I created these signature Hollywood Confidence Formula programs in celebration of you – the worthy, confident, uniquely brilliant creator of your life, your success, and whatever your vision for the future looks like

The Hollywood Confidence Formula awakens you to your worth so that you can ignite your confidence and take ownership of your power to embody the alignment your soul is calling out for

I created it based on my life in the film industry to help you develop –

an attitude that embraces worthiness

a mindset that radiates confidence

ease at being your authentic self

I lay it all out for you without any –

devaluing drama

bullshit jargon

trivial platitudes

in a way that you don’t have to to figure it all out for yourself

And the fact that you can achieve results in a matter of months is worth celebrating…

Jennifer changed my life with one conversation. She told me about how she made the bold decision to Poland with no idea what was going to happen, with no job lined up or even accommodation. And that conversation catalyzed my own journey into the unknown in pursuit of a new business opportunity overseas I’d been hesitating over for months. Have a conversation with Jennifer today if you’re feeling stuck.