Have a super stressful, demanding job with unrelenting pressure to perform where results are not optional – they’re mandatory but you no longer feel confident and have started to doubt yourself, question your decisions, and wonder if you’re even worthy of success
Believe your confidence got you here along with your ability at overcoming obstacles but now you’re sleep-deprived, terminally stressed, and always on the edge of anxiety
Sense your nervous system is on high alert, your adrenals are squirting out cortisol a mile a minute, and you feel out of alignment by this loss of confidence
Have to psych yourself up every morning on the way to work and then you replay the day’s conversations in your mind on the way home, only you say different things than you did in the actual conversation
Are sure your colleagues would throw you under a bus if they knew this about you, so you keep them at arm’s length, providing information on a need-to-know basis and never showing any vulnerability
Feel like you have to wear armour at work to protect yourself and the only time you can totally relax and not stress about your lost confidence is when you’re all alone, soaking in your tub with a drink in your hand
Then one day you hear your soul calling out for something to change and you realize you’re stuck or trapped or maybe even broken but you have no idea what to do about it
And so…
You listen to self-help audio books or podcasts to learn about what you could be doing and how you could be thinking
You recite affirmations in the mirror every morning telling yourself that you are a confident and worthy woman
And you go to a therapist to find out what happened in your childhood that made you are the way you are
But –
None of that stuff has moved the needle and nothing’s really changed
I know. I’ve been there. I did all those things too and got nowhere fast…
When you go deep inside yourself to explore all the things that make you who you are, you can choose what you want to let go of to make room for the things you want to keep
And see that confidence is already there
When you discover all the things you did’t know you already knew and own your accomplishments, you can stop doubting yourself and questioning all your decisions
And see that it’s perfectly ok to trust yourself
When you learn to embrace who and what you are without comparing yourself to other people, you can see that other people’s thoughts and opinions about you don’t matter
And see that it’s totally safe to be yourself
When you recognize your connection to the Universe to see that it’s always hard at work on your behalf, you can relinquish your grip on trying to control outcomes
And see that the ‘un’ in uncertainty is the same ‘un’ in unlimited
Our brain is a survival supercomputer that was designed to ensure that we survived
We don’t want to live in survival mode – we want to thrive and our brain wasn’t designed to help us do that
Learning how to thrive in this new world is not WooWoo bullshit
It’s mainstream neuroscience, cutting edge physics, and electromagnetic engineering
We have the power to rewire our brain to change how we perceive ourselves, our lives, and the world around us
And it all starts with becoming aware that we’re operating within our very own invisible feedback loop that’s dictating our survival by keeping us safe by existing in the zone of the known, ignoring all the stuff we keep locked deep down inside ourselves while our minds tell us we’re undeserving or unworthy or not enough or too much.
You never again had to feel unworthy or undeserving of your success
because you had a strategy for reigniting your confidence whenever it flagged?
You never doubted yourself or second-guessed your decisions again
because you’d been shown that it’s safe to trust yourself and your inner knowing?
You knew how to use your accomplishments to eliminate obstacles and reduce risks
because you were crystal clear about what you were capable of?
You weren’t stressed and anxious and frustrated all the time
because you weren’t attached to outcomes and trying to control everything?
You stopped comparing yourself to other people and always coming up short
because you understood that your unique brilliance makes you enough as you are?
You woke up each morning feeling energized and excited about the day ahead
because you felt worthy, confident, and joyful about just being yourself?
I left my stressful, high-paying, soul-sucking job in the Hollywood film industry with my confidence shattered, feeling like I was broken, and having no idea what to do about it
On an epic global adventure that reignited my confidence I learned that I had a huge bag of tools I’d acquired making movies that I could use to construct the life I chose
Learning that 80% of women feel unworthy and of those, 92% believe they lack the confidence to ever be successful, I got passionate about changing that paradigm
Right after I threw up…
And when I started speaking with women about themselves and their lives, I got even more upset witnessing the undeniable truth of that appalling statistic
Confidence is my jam and igniting it in other women became my mission
I embody that mission by showing women how they can awaken to their worthiness, reignite their confidence, and fearlessly be themselves
My programs aren’t ego-coddling therapy sessions, or hand-holding strategy meetings, or platitude-laden superficial conversations
They’re magical spaces of discovery that are totally relaxed, very real, and highly focused, while being non-judgmental, humorous, and often pretty explicit
I created the Confidence Code in celebration of you – the worthy, deserving, confident, and brilliant creator of whatever you want your life to look like
The Confidence Code is designed to awaken you to your worth so that you can reignite your confidence and take ownership of your power to start trusting yourself, stop fearing uncertainty, and feel safe being unapologetically yourself
I created it based on you to help you let go of and move beyond –
your feelings of unworthiness
your hesitancy trusting yourself
your avoidance of taking any risks
your beliefs around being in control
your fear of the dangerous unknown
your reluctance to show your true self
your need to compare yourself to others
I lay it all out for you without any –
devaluing drama
bullshit jargon
trivial platitudes
in a way that you don’t have to to figure it all out for yourself
And the fact that you can achieve results in a matter of months instead of years is worth celebrating…